Ok. But it’s not the same. You cannot ignore the history of black bodies being disrespected and devalued and how that is tied to white supremacy. Well, I guess you can ignore it.
It sucks that people invade your personal space and touch your hair without permission. It’s not the same experience as women with Afro-textured hair. When talking about oppression, false equivalences are disrespectful. How many times does this need to be repeated?
Are you guys for real? It happens to everyone really. I get it all the time and I’m white and have straight hair.
No, it really does NOT happen to everyone and maybe you need a few lessons.
I am almost 40 and I’ve been out in public quite a bit in my life. I’ve never once had anyone ask to touch or even touch without permission my white friends hair (or mine) And many have had crazy curly kinky hair.
But I’ve seen it numerous times with my black friends. And don’t get me started on when I was a teacher and watched white women touch (without permission) black CHILDREN’s hair and make inappropriate comments. Comments THEY thought were nice or just “curiosity” based.
And even if you HAVE had it happen, you have not experienced what women of color have regarding hair. You have not been told it is ugly or gross or inappropriate. You have not lost jobs because of it. You have not experienced an entire social construct shaming you or making you feel ugly because of your hair. You just haven’t.
So please, you all need ALL THE SEATS.
Not that I don’t believe you, not at all, but I’m curious as to where the bolded comes from? I mean, I’ve felt a lot of societal and familial pressure to change my hair so that it’s not frizzy, but it’s never been used to make me feel ugly.
I realise that’s comparing apples and oranges, I’m just trying to see what you see, because I’ve watched at least two or three documentaries on black hair, and done a bunch of research and analysed advertisements whenever I come across them, and I do not hear the same message you are hearing.
All I’ve ever seen that could be negative is a fetishization and objectification of black women, but that is also an issue of sexism. All women are objectified in some way, and even women with tattoos are called “exotic”.
You live in Newfoundland where there are very few people of color. Of course you don’t know much about oppression! I didn’t learn much about it until I moved to an area where there were poc who educated me about it. But believe me your hair being touched is much different than a black persons being touched for the fact that it is curly. Your hair does not have any racist terms against it, and you aren’t encouraged to wear weave to fit into society. I’ve heard a white friend of mine say white hair is just in general better than black hair and that’s why women of color wear weaves. Has anyone ever said your hair is inferior?